How To Have Better Sex

No one has good sex all the time. Not porn stars, not escorts, not even regular hot people. I’m sure that people in porn are enjoying the sex that they’re having on camera the same amount that everyone enjoys the sex that they’re having in their private lives.

It’s just statistics. 50% of the sex you have will be like satisfying, 25% will be sub-par: you don’t cum, they don’t cum, you’re tired, they had a bad day, you just started taking an SSRI, the weather was off, the cats were scratching at the door, you got a call that threw off the rhythm, etc.

But 25% of the time, the sex…is really, really fucking good. The kind you think about for days. The kind where stills and scenes will randomly intrude into your consciousness and interrupt whatever you were doing. The kind that feels like divine intervention. Primal, sacred, satisfying, productive, depraved, honest, undeniable, sacrificial, tender, beyond anything you could have dreamed up in your most creative fantasies.

When two people’s only preoccupation is whatever is right in front of them at the intersection of every minute, second, moment.

But it’s not all the time. And that’s what makes it so good. Even if you only have sex with one person your whole life, some of that sex will be bad, most will be good, and some will be so good that you fall in love all over again in a new way.

How do we have more, better sex? You can’t predict the future or choreograph perfection. Some is bad, most is good, some is great. You can’t change statistics, but you can increase your odds.

Have more sex. When you have more sex, you get more bad, but you also get more good and you get more great. I want as much great as one woman can have in one lifetime. Let’s get started.